A raise of hands, how many people have been or are the victims of gossips?
Pretty sure everyone who’s reading this post.
Gossip is idle talk or rumour, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It is one of the oldest and most common means of sharing facts and views, but also has a reputation for the introduction of errors and variations into the information transmitted. The term can also imply that the news is of personal or trivial nature, as opposed to normalconversation.
As it has been a part and parcel of our lives, many see gossips as a form of entertainment, a way of bonding, if not , just a mere term of acceptance into a certain group or society.
Gossip can have many uses:
It can be harmless coffee talks where people engages in exchanging information about others which they know of.
It can be small talks to keep a conversation going.
Or, it can be the silent killer that locks itself on the targeted and not cease even after thou unknown death.
- reinforce – or punish the lack of – morality and accountability;
- reveal passive aggression, isolating and harming others;
- serve as a process of social grooming, building a sense of community with shared interests, information, and values;
- begin a courtship that helps one find their desired mate, by counseling others; or,
- provide a peer-to-peer mechanism for disseminating information in organizations.
According to research by Mary Gormandy White, a human resource expert, she teaches how to identify the tell-tale signs of gossips especially at workplaces.
- When animated people suddenly hits the silent button
- The staring starts at the targeted
She also suggests 5 tips on how to deal with gossips:
- Rise above the gossips
- Understand the cause or what fuels the gossip
- Avoid participation in gossips
- Allow the gossips to die down
- If it persists, gather facts and seek help
- Helps individuals learn social information about other individuals in the organization (often without even having to meet the other individual)
- Builds social networks of individuals by bonding co-workers together and affiliating people with each other.
- Breaks existing bonds by ostracizing individuals within an organization.
- Enhances one’s social status/power/prestige within the organization.
- Inform individuals as to what is considered socially acceptable behavior within the organization.
It plays on the inquisitiveness of humanity, digging and questioning the morality and hidden facts of famous celebrities and personnels, so that people will actually pay a price to read up on these gossips.
The number of people who have died from gossip is uncountable each year.
However it hits me that since I am the gossiper, I can just become the gossiped too.
And it sure don’t feel great having people talking behind your backs and hushed in silence when you walk by.